Fear is a normal, helpful, part of our make-up, the fear response is sometimes called the ‘Fight or Flight’ response as it involves a series of reactions that happen automatically in our bodies.
These include raised heart rate, breathing faster, sweating, blood diverting from the digestive system leading to ‘butterflies’ sensation, and narrowing of attention. These can seem quite strange or frightening, but they all serve a function and provide what could be a life-saving edge if we are faced by physical danger, such as a wild animal.
Many of the things that trigger this response in everyday life, however are not immediate physical dangers. For those situations, it can be helpful to use ways of reducing this response as the fear response is activated very quickly but takes much longer to ‘reset’. If you were in hospital the response works in the same way; if you experience certain sensations, such as feeling like you can’t breathe, or have an image go through your mind (or a nightmare) of the ICU, your ‘Fight or Flight’ response may be triggered automatically.
Over time, this response will gradually reduce, but it may take weeks, or even months and there are some things that can get in the way of this natural ‘resetting’ of your fear response.
- Avoidance – Sometimes people avoid any reminder of the traumatic situation.
- Suppressing thoughts and images – It makes complete sense to try to prevent distressing thoughts or images from happening – psychologists call this “suppression”.
If you are experiencing intrusive images and thoughts from being in hospital, or other traumatic events, it can be helpful to know these are your brain’s way of trying to make sense of your experiences. Short-term distractions can also help – this is not the same as trying to suppress the intrusions; it is a way of gently focusing your mind elsewhere.
There are other things that can keep fear going. These are:
- Your attention becoming excessively focused on your body sensations. If you experience a frightening physical symptom it is normal for your attention to become focused on it. Things you wouldn’t normally notice become amplified. To readjust, find something else to focus your attention on like watching the TV or going for a short walk.
- Unhelpful thoughts and beliefs – Most of the time we don’t pay much attention to what goes through our mind. However, what goes through our mind plays a key role in keeping the anxiety ‘fire’ alight. If you try to notice what’s going through your mind when you are feeling particularly anxious and write them down, you can catch your unhelpful thoughts.
Things you can do to help: One approach is to think of alternatives to the anxious thought and test them out. You can help to do this by writing a ‘balancing thinking’ chart:
- Draw a table with two columns.
- Write your unhelpful anxious thoughts in the first column, then more balanced thoughts in the second.
- For example, in the first column you may write “My chest feels tight, if I’m not breathing properly I might have a heart attack” and in the second, “The doctor said it will take some time for the stiffness in my lungs to get better but she explained I’m still getting plenty of oxygen into my body and doing the exercises I’ve been given will improve my health”.
Checking and reassurance-seeking – If you have a worrying physical symptom, it makes sense to keep an eye on it. Maybe check it every hour, or ask a family member if they notice any changes. If it is still there phone 111 or go to your GP.
However, frequent checking can also keep anxiety going. Checking causes us to notice things that we wouldn’t normally because it shifts our attention, as explained above. If you think checking your body might be making your anxiety worse try gradually reducing it. You can do this by making a schedule to check, say every two hours to start and then gradually reduce how often you do so every day over a week.
Reassurance-seeking – If you notice a symptom, particularly if it is new, it’s natural to want to know what it is. However, sometimes when we seek help and go to a doctor we are sent for tests and, if they come back normal, we’re told what ‘isn’t’ the cause. A good rule of thumb is to follow guidance from NHS 111 and not to seek help purely to try to reduce anxiety.
A different type of reassurance-seeking is searching the internet or posting on social media. If you are worried about a symptom, it’s understandable to try to find information or ask other people if the same thing happened to them. Websites and social media groups can provide valuable support and reduce isolation; however, using them can sometimes also make anxiety worse. This is because, although people posting on social media may be completely truthful about their problems, the overall picture is often not representative. Always use trusted websites and social media groups for information and support but be very cautious about interpreting your own symptoms based on this information. Finally, try monitoring how long you are spending on COVID websites and social media groups and whether you feel more, or less, anxious afterwards. If you think checking online might be making your anxiety worse, take a break for a couple of days and see what difference it makes.
There are lots of different techniques that can help with managing anxiety and fear:
Set a ‘worry time’ – we know that trying not to think about worries is likely to just make them worse. An alternative is to schedule a particular time in the day when you will think about worries. Then if a worrying thought pops into your mind, day or night, note it down and continue doing what you were doing and come back to it in your ‘worry time’.
Keep busy with other things – when you feel particularly anxious, try distracting yourself by going for a walk or calling a friend.
Get back to normal activities – try to gradually start doing things you’ve been avoiding because of your health worries, such as gardening or DIY.
‘Just relax!” – relaxing is often easier said than done when you are feeling anxious and different approaches work for different people.
Visualisation: Find a place (real or imagined) to create a picture of in your mind that brings about a sense of calm or relaxation. You will be able to recognise this when you notice you start to breathe more slowly, or your shoulders begin to relax. It might be a blue ocean, a beach, a forest or field or somewhere you have been on holiday. Try to really get a feel for being in that place; What can you see, hear and smell? Would you be able to feel any temperature, for example the sun on your skin or a cool breeze across your face?
- Mindfulness meditation is an ancient technique derived from Buddhism, practised every day by millions of people who aren’t Buddhists to help manage stress. The main aim is to focus your attention on the present moment and to keep bringing your attention back to this even when it wanders off onto worries and physical symptoms. It takes some time and patience to learn, so if you think this might be a helpful approach, try a self-guided learning package online or via an app and if you find it helpful, try enrolling in an instructor-led class, either online or in-person.
When to seek additional help
If after trying these strategies you are still experiencing a high level of anxiety or anxiety is interfering with your daily life and stopping you doing things, do get further help. Talk to your GP and tell them what you are experiencing. Don’t feel you need to justify what you are saying by talking about physical symptoms, explain what you are feeling and thinking.
If you continue to experience frequent distressing images or thoughts related to your hospital stay, or find that reminders of this lead to an intense reaction, do mention this to your GP, or another health professional.
Psychological (or ‘talking’) therapies are available via the NHS and you can get them online or over the telephone through the local ‘Improving Access to Psychological Therapies (IAPT)’ service.
You can also refer yourself to your local talking therapy (IAPT) service without seeing your GP. Find your local IAPT service here: nhs.uk/service-search/find-a-psychological-therapies-service
If you need urgent help, go to your local mental health crisis service (your GP will have details) or call Samaritans free on 116 123 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
For further information:
There are also some audio guides on managing anxiety: nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/moodzone-mental-wellbeing-audio-guides
Information on apps to help manage mental wellbeing: nhs.uk/apps-library/category/mental-health